We are increasingly becoming aware of couples that choose to “bird nest” after separation. This means that the children stay in the family home and their parents take it in turns to live with them, rather than children moving between their parents’ homes.
Children may benefit from having one home, and both of their parents involved in their day to day lives.
Here are our tips to make sure that a bird nesting arrangement works for the whole family:
- Make sure that there is a clear plan in place for when each parent will be in the home, and when they will be elsewhere. A lack of clarity might create confusion, and in turn, animosity.
- Keep the arrangement under review. Have age-appropriate conversations with the children to make sure that the arrangement works for them and to discuss any questions or issues that they have.
- Think about having separate homes outside of the main home rather than just the main home and a “spare home” that the parents alternate between them. It is important that each of the parents has their own space.
- Consider the future. While bird nesting may seem like a good option shortly after separation, in time, the parents may prefer to have a space that their former partner doesn’t occupy. The situation can become more complicated when new partners become involved. Bird nesting is not usually a long-term option.
- Discuss how household chores will be divided and make sure that the agreement is adhered to. Also consider other tasks such as the children’s homework, appointments etc.
- Be clear about how the household outgoings will be met and make sure that there is an agreement in place.
- Take legal advice early on to ensure that all important considerations have been addressed and that you are protected.
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